Vent-- drama drama.

hyp·o·crite noun \ˈhi-pə-ˌkrit\
Definition of HYPOCRITE
1: a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion
2: a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings

I was going to post this as my facebook status yesterday, but decided against it. I might still do it though, with the words "(person's name here): this means you" after it.

Ugh. Gotta love family drama.

I don't like to air too much dirty laundry on here,but this has been on my mind lately.

Russ's brother T and sister-in-law B aren't speaking to the family (well, to Russ's mom and his other brother J, anyway) because J's wife K "verbally disciplined" (if you can even call it that) T and B's daughter L.(Sorry for all the letters here...) L was telling J&K's daughter "My daddy is better than your daddy" and stuff like that, and all K said to her was "Please don't say that...it's not nice and it hurts my feelings when you talk about my husband like that." She didn't tell L to shut up or anything like that-- she put it very nicely to L. WELL--- L called her mom and dad and said K was being mean to her... they freaking blew a gasket about the whole thing, refused to listen to K's side of the story. They wanted Russ's mom to take L home and she refused to because she wanted T&B to come deal with the situation themselves. She also told them, "Why do you think she's saying things like that? She's only repeating what she hears at home." And that was it-- they hold such huge freaking grudges and GOD FORBID someone correct their child. That was at Christmas time and they haven't spoken to the family since, because of a petty thing like that.

This isn't the first time either. Russ and I have been married almost 6 years,and I think the whole family has only been speaking for 1 1/2 of those years. It's nuts.

Anyway-- it just highly annoys me because they put up such a "holier-than-thou, we're the perfect Catholic family" front, and little does the rest of the world know that they treat their family like S***!!!! I just don't get how they can act like such great Christians, when they are forever holding grudges and refusing to forgive. They have seriously alienated practically their whole family, and most of their friends. People ask Russ if T is related to him, and Russ will say, "yeah he's my brother, but we're not very close" and the people never really have anything nice to say about T.

Russ and I weren't involved in this latest dispute, but he refuses to talk to T if T insists on treating the rest of the family like crap. Russ's mom misses her grandkids like crazy and I hate seeing her hurting like that. She went to one of the grandkids' first communion on Sunday, and a few of the grandkids barely spoke to her. She said it felt very forced, and she knows for a fact that T talks badly about her to the grandkids, because she heard it from their other grandma (who heard it straight out of T's mouth to the kids one day.)

My MIL was so hurt and upset when she called me Sunday to tell me how things went. I could tell she'd been crying. She's torn because she wants to let the grandkids know she cares, but she's so tired of being treated like crap by T. B didn't say one word or even look at her on Sunday. She says she's done with them because she can't put herself through that anymore. It's just so sad. I've always had such great relationships with my family, so I just don't understand how anyone can be like that and just quit speaking to family over something so.... stupid. I mean seriously-- if my child said that to someone else and I wasn't around, I would be happy that someone corrected her and told her it was wrong. My MIL is right though-- children repeat what they hear at home. God knows what goes on behind closed doors.

Sad sad sad. Sorry for the downer post...just had to blog vent. Would that be called "blenting?" ;-)

Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.